Working for Long-term Relationship

# Working for Long-term Relationship

I had my first girlfriend when I was 16 years old. That's when I reached my third year in high school. But as young as I was, I forgot one of the fundamental rules in a relationship: HUMBLENESS + FORGIVENESS = LONG-TERM RELATIONSHIP

I realized this life-changing, mind-boggling, earth-shaking formula for a long-term relationship as I grow up in becoming a man on my own. I've come to realized as well that being regretful about the past does not help in the process of learning new things for better.
Let me tell you my story.

After the break-up, I wanted to get rid of the memories with her in my mind. Why? Because I wanted to move on and focus on other things like improving my grades, working on my research study (since I was a school science researcher that time), giving my self more time to learn on new things and so on.

Those were signs of immaturity. I was trying to heal the symptoms and not the disease. Symptoms like self-pity, self-rejection, self-disapproval and self-unawareness -- all driven by fear which is the ultimate disease I have experienced.

What I did were totally opposite to what I really wanted. It was like I was baking a vegetable salad which, later on, resulting to a different product.

The result? Self-denial.

I realized that there are ways to treat the disease (not only the symptoms):

SELF-ACCEPTANCE. Unless you accept yourself for being YOU, you will know how to handle problems. Because you know yourself far more than anyone else may have known you. American author and poet Jane Roberts said “You must love yourself before you love another. By accepting yourself and fully being what you are, your simple presence can make others happy.

UNDERSTANDING THE CAUSE, NOT ONLY THE EFFECT. I learned to understand that the reason why our relationship did not work was because we were too young to be true and we were immature toddler. By just understanding the main cause, surely you will get to understand the effect after.

FORGIVE EASILY SO YOU CAN MOVE ON RIGHT AWAY. It really doesn't matter if the person who hurt you deserves to be forgiven. Forgiveness is a gift you give yourself. You have things to do and you want to move on. I'm not telling that it is easy as 1-2-3 to forgive. But you only have two options: Don’t forgive and suffer or forgive and move on. By the end of the day, it's good to stay a friends, is not it?

BE OPEN. Why afraid of talking about your emotion/problem to your family or friends?

CHOOSE TO BE HAPPY. In the book of 1 Thessalonians 5:16, St. Paul said “Be joyful always.” The Holy Bible teaches us to be happy not now, not tomorrow but always! Give yourself a perfect day. Do what makes you happiest. Look upon what gives you joy. Speak to those who warm your heart. Listen to that which lifts your spirit. Surround yourself with sights and sounds and people who give you pleasure. For all the happiness you give to others all year long, give yourself a perfect day.

LOVE AGAIN. Love can be healed by love, in due time. If you will stop loving, you are stealing the chance from yourself to learn and embrace change. I want to share what Lady Diana Frances Spencer, beloved Princess of Wales, said about love.

“Perhaps we're too embarrassed to change or too frightened of the consequences of showing that we actually care. But why not risk it anyway? Begin today. Carry out a random act of seemingly senseless kindness, with no expectation of reward or punishment, safe in the knowledge that one day, someone somewhere might do the same for you.”

-Princess Diana of Wales was so true.

In fact, the Bible teaches us to do all our works in love (1 Corinthians 16:14). Why then stop?

These are my key points in treating my fear. And I live with these principles today.
I want to give emphasis on the secret formula: HUMBLENESS + FORGIVENESS = LONG-TERM RELATIONSHIP. If you are humble enough to accept things with all your hearts, then you will succeed in every relationship you'll have. In addition to humbleness is also forgiveness. When you forgive others, you are embracing changes and therefore move on.

I should have worked on our relationship before to last. But because of what happened, I learned from it. I grew more as a person. I embraced change. And moved on.

Today, I still encounter emotional pains. That's normal as long as we live. But I am getting more mature to handle them. If you fail, that's okay. Start again. As what Ophrah Winfrey said "It's not a failure if you enjoy the process."

Friends, I am not that totally mature enough at this age. With my limited experience, I can't tell you more how do handle difficulties in life. I am an eternal student – learning everyday. I will have to go through many pains and tears to learn more and more, like you.

Leave all your worries with him, because he cares for you. – 1 Peter 5:7

One thing for sure, I just trust God in everything I do. I believe God is patient for me and He guides me well. For that, I will never give up in working for a long-term relationship. I will never quit in finding my one-true love.

I was born to be a winner. I am God's champion.

Let me pray here. Together let us say:

In the name of the Father, and of the Son, and of the Holy Spirit. Amen.

Heavenly Father, I see the goodness of your work in me everyday. I want to thank you for making me your Champion. I am your son, and you are my Father. You just want the best in me. Father, I may sometimes about to give up in finding one-true love but I know you're working on it everyday. Sometimes I am about to quit but I know you're there. I simply want to thank you for loving me, Father. Thank you for helping me realized the fundamental keys in working out long-term relationship.

I would like to give you back the honor and glory for your marvelous work in me by serving you and your church. I love you Father as much as you love me.

Father, help me to be more optimistic in finding love in whatever I do. Help me to become more patient and more loving person. Help me to find my one-true love. I trust Father that you will answer my prayers in the best possible ways.

In Jesus' Name, Amen.

In the name of the Father, and of the son, and of the Holy Spirit. Amen.